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  How Do I See? Seeing as a Highly Sensitive Individual By Troy Alan Cox 06/08/2026 Painting artist credit: Troy Alan Cox Stop Scanning My role as an older brother in a foreign country was to keep my little brother safe, watch out for him, and know where he was at all times. This was no easy task. From as early as I can remember, Todd was always getting in trouble. The first time I rescued him was when he set the bathroom door on fire from the inside while playing with matches. I got an award of merit for being able to stay calm enough, at nine years old, to run outside, flag down a passing truck, and cross the street to a neighbor’s house to ask them to call the fire station, which we happened to live next to. Then there was the time he broke his arm by jumping out of the closet trying to fly like Superman, the time he got a major laceration from the swing set my dad built for us in the backyard, and the time he fell through the church roof and almost broke his back on the pulpit....
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How Do I Hear? Hearing as a Highly Sensitive Individual By Troy Alan Cox 06/07/2026 Photo credit: Troy Alan Cox The First Five Notes I have been binge-watching the Outlander series since my father’s funeral. I did not have television for 13 years when I lived in California. I felt there were better things to do with my time. I started reading the books in the Outlander series over a decade ago. My mother read the entire series, which is a lot of reading. I made it to the later books but eventually gave up. I love Diana’s characters and the time travel, but the wars, violence, and trauma, which she describes in cinematic detail, became too much for me over time. However, when they first began filming the series, I was hooked. I finally made it up to the latest and final season, season eight. My father loved the show too and could whistle the whole theme song from start to finish. I loved listening to him whistle it as we started each new episode. I am so sad he did not get to see the ...

Mold, Memories & Sympathy Cards

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A reflection on grief By Troy Alan Cox 06/06/2026 Mold I have to remove the carpet from my father’s master bedroom. It is something that needd to be done for almost two years, but dementia is a cruel disease. The brain slowly loses its ability to communicate with the body. Once my father could no longer get his legs to work and became bedbound, the carpet became the last thing to think about. This week, two months after Easter — the first time I was sure he was going to pass — I began removing a small section of the carpet. Underneath the padding, I found one of the worst fears of any Florida homeowner: a large amount of growth. Some of it may be disintegrating padding. Some of it may be dust. But the black swirls are what concern me most. Immediately, I remembered all the times my father told me he could smell mold in his room. Unfortunately, the master ensuite had plumbing problems before we ever took on this fixer-upper. After multiple plumber bills and repeated overflows, the carpe...